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Luke Nieuwhof
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Wednesday, June 21, 2006 - 07:37 am, by:  Luke Nieuwhof (Luke_nieuwhof) Edit Post Delete Post Print Post   View Post/Check IP (Moderator/Admin Only) Move Post (Moderator/Admin Only)


Shane Ilich wrote on Tuesday, June 20, 2006 - 04:18 pm:



Samantha Hornby wrote on Tuesday, June 20, 2006 - 04:05 pm:
Yeah there's one or two in Melbourne that aren't too bad





But...none of us Perth guys were in Melbourne recently???...




Ooh ooh I was! Am I the hot one, Sam?

Shane Ilich wrote on Tuesday, June 20, 2006 - 04:46 pm:

Spent it on pizza...



Pizza or, ahem, "pizza"?


Adam Barry wrote on Wednesday, June 21, 2006 - 03:17 am:

Hmmm... one day I'll have to get over my crippling fear of women and actually talk to one.



That'll be the day! Adam there were single women at my party...they're there, but you have to make the moves.
Adam Barry
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Wednesday, June 21, 2006 - 08:00 am, by:  Adam Barry (Acdchook) Edit Post Delete Post Print Post   View Post/Check IP (Moderator/Admin Only) Move Post (Moderator/Admin Only)


Luke Nieuwhof wrote on Wednesday, June 21, 2006 - 07:37 am:

Adam there were single women at my party...they're there, but you have to make the moves.



Haha - I know - Phil pointed some out to me. And besides, even if I was a suave bugger and was semi-competent at talking to women, I was hardly going to try and pick up at your 21st. Who knows who I could have found myself cracking onto. Could've been your sister for all I would've known, and that just wouldn't be cool. (And no, I don't know if you have a sister or not, but that's hardly the point.)

And anyway, I've pretty much just given up on ending this horrible dry spell anytime soon. Some guys have it, some don't, and I'm definitely in the latter category.
Perry Morgan
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Wednesday, June 21, 2006 - 08:03 am, by:  Perry Morgan (Uzz32) Edit Post Delete Post Print Post   View Post/Check IP (Moderator/Admin Only) Move Post (Moderator/Admin Only)


Mel Morgan wrote on Wednesday, June 21, 2006 - 07:10 am:

Nah, it's the shy ones that are the deviants.



Stop trying to tarnish my impeccable reputation woman, or I'll put the ball gag back in and bind you up again!
Luke Nieuwhof
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Wednesday, June 21, 2006 - 08:27 am, by:  Luke Nieuwhof (Luke_nieuwhof) Edit Post Delete Post Print Post   View Post/Check IP (Moderator/Admin Only) Move Post (Moderator/Admin Only)


Adam Barry wrote on Wednesday, June 21, 2006 - 08:00 am:

Haha - I know - Phil pointed some out to me. And besides, even if I was a suave bugger and was semi-competent at talking to women, I was hardly going to try and pick up at your 21st. Who knows who I could have found myself cracking onto. Could've been your sister for all I would've known, and that just wouldn't be cool. (And no, I don't know if you have a sister or not, but that's hardly the point.)

And anyway, I've pretty much just given up on ending this horrible dry spell anytime soon. Some guys have it, some don't, and I'm definitely in the latter category.



Stop with the defeatist attitude! That's probably why the dry spell isn't ending.
What do you mean you weren't going to pick up at my 21st? Parties are great for meeting new people! Who cares if it was my sister, I would have just slapped you and told you to move on and then you would have known who was my sister and who wasn't and tried another gal.
Start with "Hi, I'm Adam? How are you?" and go from there.
Adam Barry
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Wednesday, June 21, 2006 - 08:43 am, by:  Adam Barry (Acdchook) Edit Post Delete Post Print Post   View Post/Check IP (Moderator/Admin Only) Move Post (Moderator/Admin Only)


Luke Nieuwhof wrote on Wednesday, June 21, 2006 - 08:27 am:

Start with "Hi, I'm Adam? How are you?" and go from there.



Yeah, good plan, except...

Adam Barry wrote on Wednesday, June 21, 2006 - 03:17 am:

my crippling fear of women



...makes it difficult.


Besides, your 21st was at a pub. Any chick that's in a pub isn't likely to be a chick that I'd have anything in common with.
Luke Nieuwhof
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Wednesday, June 21, 2006 - 09:09 am, by:  Luke Nieuwhof (Luke_nieuwhof) Edit Post Delete Post Print Post   View Post/Check IP (Moderator/Admin Only) Move Post (Moderator/Admin Only)

Crippling fear of women = not getting laid. So stop complaining or get over the fear.
Yeah my 21st was at a pub, in a private area with a captive audience for Adam to work his magic! The area you were in had plenty of people to meet and chat too.
And I'm sure poor Hornby will be insulted by your pub comment. :-)
Nichola Castagna
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Wednesday, June 21, 2006 - 09:25 am, by:  Nichola Castagna (Nawtee) Edit Post Delete Post Print Post   View Post/Check IP (Moderator/Admin Only) Move Post (Moderator/Admin Only)

Adam, just get out there and have fun. Don't talk to them with the intention of picking up, Talk to them with the intention of just meeting new people, and you'd be surprised about what may come of it. A guy that can hold a decent conversation is way more appealing than someone that relies on stupid pickup lines to get laid.
Adam Barry
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Wednesday, June 21, 2006 - 09:46 am, by:  Adam Barry (Acdchook) Edit Post Delete Post Print Post   View Post/Check IP (Moderator/Admin Only) Move Post (Moderator/Admin Only)


Nichola Castagna wrote on Wednesday, June 21, 2006 - 09:25 am:

A guy that can hold a decent conversation



Sh1t, rules me out.
Nichola Castagna
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Wednesday, June 21, 2006 - 10:03 am, by:  Nichola Castagna (Nawtee) Edit Post Delete Post Print Post   View Post/Check IP (Moderator/Admin Only) Move Post (Moderator/Admin Only)


Adam Barry wrote on Wednesday, June 21, 2006 - 09:46 am:

Sh1t, rules me out.


Meh, don't count yourself out just yet. Just get out there and chat with people......Talk about Soarers, that's always an appealing topic!!!
Luke Nieuwhof
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Wednesday, June 21, 2006 - 10:08 am, by:  Luke Nieuwhof (Luke_nieuwhof) Edit Post Delete Post Print Post   View Post/Check IP (Moderator/Admin Only) Move Post (Moderator/Admin Only)

So Adam, WTF are you offering to a potential girlfriend? Nothing by the sounds of it. Who are you hoping to attract? Someone just as mopey? You need to bring something to the table man!

Next Soarer cruise will be taking Adam out and forcing him to talk to a female and make decent conversation.
Nichola Castagna
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Wednesday, June 21, 2006 - 10:19 am, by:  Nichola Castagna (Nawtee) Edit Post Delete Post Print Post   View Post/Check IP (Moderator/Admin Only) Move Post (Moderator/Admin Only)


Luke Nieuwhof wrote on Wednesday, June 21, 2006 - 10:08 am:

forcing him to talk to a female and make decent conversation.


Nothing better than throwing a guy into the deep end!! He's either going to sink or swim!! What's it going to be Adam??
Daniel Czechowski
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Wednesday, June 21, 2006 - 10:47 am, by:  Daniel Czechowski (Dan) Edit Post Delete Post Print Post   View Post/Check IP (Moderator/Admin Only) Move Post (Moderator/Admin Only)

The way it's always worked for me was not to try hard, just relax and be yourself, as if you were talking to some friend of yours, don't have any expectations on the back of your mind, just a 'whatever' attitude. Don't look desperate if you know what I mean. Oh, and make it look like whatever she's talking about is really interesting, after a while she'll be doing most of the talking!
Tim Appleton
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Wednesday, June 21, 2006 - 10:53 am, by:  Tim Appleton (Timbo) Edit Post Delete Post Print Post   View Post/Check IP (Moderator/Admin Only) Move Post (Moderator/Admin Only)

Luke, I don't think that comment is particularly constructive for someone who's probably down a bit on the "motivation to meet girls" factor. I know I've been told similar before and it doesn't help.

Problem is that with my low self esteem, it breeds lower self-esteem. There's nothing more draining than being told by a chic that you need more confidence - Sh!t, I thought I WAS being confident... just when you think you're gaining confidence, you get cut back down.

Adam, I reckon you need to go out with some mates who are going to help you chat to women. Get your mates to introduce you to someone, at the pub, some of their chic friends, whoever. Just to get comfortable in that situation. I don't mean they should stand there and hold your hand, but hang around long enough to make you feel comfortable, BUT make sure they don't push you into a group of girls and say "Chat them up". There's nothing worse, it doesn't help with confidence.

I always find that the hardest part is breaking the ice. "Two tonne polar bear, two tonne polar bear" What?? "It's all I could think of to break the ice"

My 2.2 cents worth including GST
Adam Barry
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Wednesday, June 21, 2006 - 10:58 am, by:  Adam Barry (Acdchook) Edit Post Delete Post Print Post   View Post/Check IP (Moderator/Admin Only) Move Post (Moderator/Admin Only)


Luke Nieuwhof wrote on Wednesday, June 21, 2006 - 10:08 am:

So Adam, WTF are you offering to a potential girlfriend? Nothing by the sounds of it.



Hence why I'm not wasting my, or their, time by trying to con some poor girl into looking twice in my direction.

Nichola Castagna wrote on Wednesday, June 21, 2006 - 10:19 am:

He's either going to sink or swim!! What's it going to be Adam??



I never was a very good swimmer.

Daniel Czechowski wrote on Wednesday, June 21, 2006 - 10:47 am:

Don't look desperate if you know what I mean.



Again, that pretty much counts me out.


Oh well, I guess the whole dating thing just isn't for me.
Adam Barry
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Wednesday, June 21, 2006 - 11:02 am, by:  Adam Barry (Acdchook) Edit Post Delete Post Print Post   View Post/Check IP (Moderator/Admin Only) Move Post (Moderator/Admin Only)


Tim Appleton wrote on Wednesday, June 21, 2006 - 10:53 am:

I reckon you need to go out with some mates



Well there's problem #1 - I have one friend, I live with him, and he's a semi-gothic weirdo who almost never leaves the house.
Matthew Sharpe
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Wednesday, June 21, 2006 - 11:14 am, by:  Matthew Sharpe (Madmatt) Edit Post Delete Post Print Post   View Post/Check IP (Moderator/Admin Only) Move Post (Moderator/Admin Only)

Adam, I didn't drink at all until I was 28 years old and it never stopped me from meeting women. Nor am I a confident alpha male type, just a regular guy.

All the advise you are getting here is good, but you also have to be yourself.

Try and remember that people are attracted to people that look happy. A good smile always worked wonders for me, though to look happy you have to be happy.
Matthew Sharpe
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Wednesday, June 21, 2006 - 11:16 am, by:  Matthew Sharpe (Madmatt) Edit Post Delete Post Print Post   View Post/Check IP (Moderator/Admin Only) Move Post (Moderator/Admin Only)


Adam Barry wrote on Wednesday, June 21, 2006 - 11:02 am:

Well there's problem #1 - I have one friend, I live with him, and he's a semi-gothic weirdo who almost never leaves the house




Oh god, you are doomed on the happynes front living with a goth!
Daniel Czechowski
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Wednesday, June 21, 2006 - 11:21 am, by:  Daniel Czechowski (Dan) Edit Post Delete Post Print Post   View Post/Check IP (Moderator/Admin Only) Move Post (Moderator/Admin Only)


Adam Barry wrote on Wednesday, June 21, 2006 - 10:58 am:

Daniel Czechowski wrote on Wednesday, June 21, 2006 - 10:47 am:
Don't look desperate if you know what I mean.




Again, that pretty much counts me out.




Dude, have a or two, and just approach a girl casually. Even if you are desperate, you just can't let them see it. That's why you should relax and just think well, you got nothing to lose, it might work, or it might not work, and just take it easy, talk to them like if you were talking to somebody you know etc etc, you can even fake it if that helps, you know, fool yourself into thinking that. And don't expect success first time you do it, you might get through 10 rejections before you come across someone that will receive you well, it's all normal and it shouldn't discourage you. It is gonna happen, just a matter of statistics that's all :-) Oh, and girls just love complements, knowing 'useless stuff' such as brand of perfume they're wearing, or a handbag, earrings, shoes and whatever else comes in handy. I've studied all that crap (I can now tell what brand of perfume a girl is wearing for example) after a friend told me about it years ago, and talking to girls about that helps a lot. Get your sister to give you a quick run down on all this stuff or something :-)
Adam Barry
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Wednesday, June 21, 2006 - 11:22 am, by:  Adam Barry (Acdchook) Edit Post Delete Post Print Post   View Post/Check IP (Moderator/Admin Only) Move Post (Moderator/Admin Only)

See, I agree - all this advice is great. Only thing is, it's just not me. You say I should be myself, yet I should be confident and happy. Well I'm neither confident nor happy, and I'm too sh1te a liar to pretend.

But you know, I'm kinda okay with it. After 6 months you sort of accept that you may not find another someone. Hell, I've almost forgotten what it was like to have companionship (and sex too, although that's less important), so I hardly even miss it anymore.
Adam Barry
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Wednesday, June 21, 2006 - 11:25 am, by:  Adam Barry (Acdchook) Edit Post Delete Post Print Post   View Post/Check IP (Moderator/Admin Only) Move Post (Moderator/Admin Only)


Daniel Czechowski wrote on Wednesday, June 21, 2006 - 11:21 am:

Dude, have a or two



Well, unless that little yellow smiley guy is drinking Coke, that ain't gonna happen. Me and alcohol aren't friends.
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Wednesday, June 21, 2006 - 11:31 am, by:  Nick Petkovic (Naissus96) Edit Post Delete Post Print Post   View Post/Check IP (Moderator/Admin Only) Move Post (Moderator/Admin Only)

Looks like you are comfortable with things the way they are. If you want something to change you have to do it yourself. People can only give you advice but the rest is up to you. I know its hard, but life sucks and we all know it.
So if you want something or someone, just go and get it and don't give up till you get what you want. That's the only way to be happy and enjoy your life.
Adam Barry
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Wednesday, June 21, 2006 - 11:43 am, by:  Adam Barry (Acdchook) Edit Post Delete Post Print Post   View Post/Check IP (Moderator/Admin Only) Move Post (Moderator/Admin Only)


Nick Petkovic wrote on Wednesday, June 21, 2006 - 11:31 am:

So if you want something or someone, just go and get it and don't give up till you get what you want.



Sounds like advice for all stalkers around the world.

And no, I definitely wouldn't say I was comfortable with things as they are, but I don't see that I have much choice in the matter. I am seriously crippled in the social skills department. My social paranoia is so bad that I almost vomited in my car on the way to Luke's 21st last week, just because I knew that I'd be in a social setting - and that's going to hang out with club members - people I'm (relatively) comfortable with. So I'm afraid talking to chicks is just out of the question for me.
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Wednesday, June 21, 2006 - 11:46 am, by:  Daniel Czechowski (Dan) Edit Post Delete Post Print Post   View Post/Check IP (Moderator/Admin Only) Move Post (Moderator/Admin Only)

Ok, you don't have to drink alcohol then. But I still mean the rest of the stuff I said up there.
Luke Nieuwhof
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Wednesday, June 21, 2006 - 11:52 am, by:  Luke Nieuwhof (Luke_nieuwhof) Edit Post Delete Post Print Post   View Post/Check IP (Moderator/Admin Only) Move Post (Moderator/Admin Only)

Adam sorry if I'm coming across hard on you dude but seriously, but if you're not willing to change then stop complaining.

You've got mates in the Soarer club, you've got our numbers, why not ring up and say hey guys let's go and get dinner and a drink somewhere? That at least gets you out into the world away from the goth, car destroying friend you have, AKA The Dirty Supra Owner.

I sympathise with you, I've been wallowing a bit in my own self pity since breaking up with Anne, thinking oh my god I'll never find someone as nice as her again but what I am starting to realise is that this is the worst attitude to have to find another girl. I've just gotta be confident, make some opportunities and then just let whatever will be, be.
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Wednesday, June 21, 2006 - 11:56 am, by:  Luke Nieuwhof (Luke_nieuwhof) Edit Post Delete Post Print Post   View Post/Check IP (Moderator/Admin Only) Move Post (Moderator/Admin Only)


Adam Barry wrote on Wednesday, June 21, 2006 - 11:43 am:

My social paranoia is so bad that I almost vomited in my car on the way to Luke's 21st last week


Dude, that is a problem. Seriously I would be talking to someone about that. Not cool at all.

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