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Adam Peterson
TryHard
Western Australia
V8
Posts: 328
Reg: 04-2006
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OK Im not into all this emo •••• but ive got myself a dilemma. I wont go into it but I want to know what you people think about this.
Would you leave your partner, whom you love and will probably marry (if not already) for your dream job ? |
Rob Andreacchio
Moderator
Victoria
Supercharged VT Calais
Posts: 1726
Reg: 01-2005
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If she looked like Angelina... no hope.. otherwise depends if the money was good enough, and if I would be more happy in life because of the "dream job"...
hmm.. come to think of it, the dream job would involve Angelina anyways...  |
Daniel Czechowski
Goo Roo
Western Australia
Soarer GT-T
Posts: 1486
Reg: 07-2005
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Why won't your partner like your dream job? Unless it's something like a pornstar why would she mind it? Maybe tell us what your dream job is and then we'll decide for you  |
Justin Hughes
DieHard
VIC
TT
Posts: 744
Reg: 07-2005
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Back in 1991 I left the Love of my Life in Melbourne for a Dream job in Queensland.
3 Months later she moved up to be with me.
8 Years later she gave birth to our Son.
2 Years after that she sacked me - BITCH.
Whatever you choose to do, nothing ever turns out the way you want or think it might. Do whats feels right for YOU.
Look in your Heart of Hearts for the first answer that comes, go with it and don't look back - never look back. |
Shane Ilich
Goo Roo
W.A.
Manual Single T
Posts: 1157
Reg: 07-2005
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Why does the dream job involve leaving the partner?
What is the dream job?
Just trying to qualify the parameters of the dilemma somewhat....I like to know what the box is before I start thinking outside of it. |
Rob Andreacchio
Moderator
Victoria
Supercharged VT Calais
Posts: 1728
Reg: 01-2005
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i would assume it's not located nearby... perhaps overseas.. but could be wrong |
Nathan Evans
TryHard
Queensland
1JZZ30 TT
Posts: 324
Reg: 07-2005
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probably over seas, with mad ass pay, seeing as he is a graphic designer. It also depends on how long you have been with your partner and what you have together. |
Adam Peterson
TryHard
Western Australia
V8
Posts: 329
Reg: 04-2006
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My girlfriend has been offered a job as a dancer to some of Americas top RnB artists for minimum 3 years. Hence she will have to move to L.A. |
Nathan Evans
TryHard
Queensland
1JZZ30 TT
Posts: 326
Reg: 07-2005
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ahhhh and obviously you cant move due to your career right? |
Adam Peterson
TryHard
Western Australia
V8
Posts: 330
Reg: 04-2006
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The decision is hers to make, not mine.
But I just wanted to know what you guys would do, if you were in a similar situation ?
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Daniel Czechowski
Goo Roo
Western Australia
Soarer GT-T
Posts: 1488
Reg: 07-2005
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Ok, simple rules (ladies on the forum may think bad of me but anyway)
In that case, no, the woman should stay here and marry you Adam.
If it was reversed, then the woman should follow you and marry you wherever you go Adam.
That's my 2 cents... although I bet a lot will disagree with it
On a serious note, how long have you been together? I would understand the girl if it was like a couple of months or something, but any relationship which is over a year old and is going good, should take priority no matter what. Then again, there should also be a compromise too, but in this case it involves moving to the other side of the world, so it's a big compromise in this instance I guess... hard to say.  |
Nathan Evans
TryHard
Queensland
1JZZ30 TT
Posts: 327
Reg: 07-2005
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She should really consider your situation aswell, i mean i think a healthy marriage is going to be way better for you both and you mental health aswell. You will be surprised, but like you said adam it is her decision and yes it doers suck that you and her are put in this situation. |
Shane Ilich
Goo Roo
W.A.
Manual Single T
Posts: 1158
Reg: 07-2005
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Adam Peterson wrote on Monday, August 07, 2006 - 05:25 pm:My girlfriend has been offered a job as a dancer to some of Americas top RnB artists for minimum 3 years. Hence she will have to move to L.A.
Nathan Evans wrote on Monday, August 07, 2006 - 05:27 pm:ahhhh and obviously you cant move due to your career right?
Adam Peterson wrote on Monday, August 07, 2006 - 05:30 pm:The decision is hers to make, not mine.
Hmmm...by this, I take it that she hasnt asked you to move across with you?
Surely, in your line of work, a move to LA would open up more opportunities than over here anyways?
If she asked me, I'd go. And if she feels the same way as you do regarding the relationship, she will ask you. But, as you say, its her call to ask you...
My 2c. |
Clayton Webb
TryHard
South Australia
'31 V8
Posts: 364
Reg: 09-2005
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I'd go with her. You can always come back if doesn't work. Would the thought "What if I'd gone to LA...." ever creep into your head if you stayed? |
Daniel Czechowski
Goo Roo
Western Australia
Soarer GT-T
Posts: 1489
Reg: 07-2005
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Good point Shane! I presume she'd want you to come with her, that way she'd get the best of both... Honestly, if my gf said that she wanted to move to a similar place for a whatever reason (given there are good opportunities for my line of work and good and peaceful life etc.) I would probably go. If it's just for 3 years, you can always come back when the contract finishes, unless you settle in and have a better life, in which case it's a good thing right?
Or maybe the real issue is this: Adam will have to sell his Soarer coz he's moving to LA soon...  |
Adam Peterson
TryHard
Western Australia
V8
Posts: 331
Reg: 04-2006
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I havent ruled out the possibilty of going over to LA with her. I mean look on the bright side, I can drive a real Lexus then
shes still yet to make up her mind for shes a bit emo atm. |
Justin Hughes
DieHard
VIC
TT
Posts: 745
Reg: 07-2005
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Adam Peterson wrote on Monday, August 07, 2006 - 06:26 pm:look on the bright side, I can drive a real Lexus then
Hahahahaa - Yeah !!! - these Toyota copies are crap  |
David Vaughan
Goo Roo
ACT
V8 manual
Posts: 2247
Reg: 07-2005
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...whereas you are not emo at all. Well, that is a relief.
If she asks you, then you have a decision about the amount of risk you want to take. You work in a sellable area, so the question is a bit about whether you can afford (financially and socially) to take the risk.
If, rather than asking you, she is treating it as "I go or I stay" then you might choose to let her go. It is her decision all right, as if that were not obvious, but you have a legitimate interest and her respect for that interest (rather than agreement with it), while it does not entitle you to tell her what to do, may yet determine what you do.
Tough decisions come along for most of us and not only once. Best wishes. Juzza's comments (his last paragraph) are worth re-reading, especially his last words. [Edit: I meant his first post  ] |
Peter Nitschke
JunkFilterer
South Australia
GT4.0 V8
Posts: 5412
Reg: 11-2004
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David Vaughan wrote on Monday, August 07, 2006 - 06:45 pm:Juzza's comments (his last paragraph) are worth re-reading, especially his last words.
This bit?
Justin Hughes wrote on Monday, August 07, 2006 - 06:45 pm:these Toyota copies are crap
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David Vaughan
Goo Roo
ACT
V8 manual
Posts: 2248
Reg: 07-2005
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yeah, that one too Peter but I did not want to break the news too harshly  |
Justin Hughes
DieHard
VIC
TT
Posts: 746
Reg: 07-2005
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Interesting thing is - I took the question as if it were Adam that had the Dream Job.
I'm sorry if that reply upsets you Adam because it would make me feel sad to read that if I were in your position. |
Adam Peterson
TryHard
Western Australia
V8
Posts: 332
Reg: 04-2006
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Naa thats ok Justin 
I was proposing the dilemma from a neutral guy/girl angle.
Im both really happy for her and proud of her.
But on the other hand, she has to decide whether to stay or take or her chance in a lifetime. I just have to sit and wait for the news 
If she decides to go, I will try to go with her! |
Lew Radbourn
Goo Roo
Queensland
jzz30 ute / uzz30/ 2 X uzz31
Posts: 1125
Reg: 07-2005
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Adam;
i have had to make the same sort of decisions as well mate.
it was only a small distance (Geelong to Gold coast).
but the same thing as your self.
being up here is good
But it got even better when i sold my house in Victoria.
as i had done the move then and now i don't have to look back (Juzza's comments)
mind you I was very close to loosing every thing.
including my marriage(stress had set in).
BUT like juzza said and i agree with him.
If you love the girl and she wants you to go with her GO mate and don't look back .
it will be rough to start with until you get into the swing of things .
then it does smooth out.
By the way mate you are still young enough to do it so even if she doesn't invite you GO ANY WAY
heheheh
good luck mate |
Greg Nikitiuk
DieHard
Vic
Celsior
Posts: 568
Reg: 07-2005
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post a pic of her and I will tell you if you should go or stay here |
Callum Finch
Goo Roo
WA
Soarer TT & Corolla
Posts: 1599
Reg: 09-2005
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I wouldnt let her take the job; even if you stuck together and you found a great job in LA, you would have to live with hundreds of thousands of guys fapping over your gf's rear end...
..personally i couldnt live knowing that =\ |
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