Monday, August 07, 2006 - 10:50 pm, by: Murray Allen(Rusty)
i will be making the same decision towards the end of the year. My missus (who i was chasing for 3years, before i finally got her 3months ago), will be leaving for Sydney or Melbourne at the end of this year. Both aren't very far from Canberra, but after chasing her for 3years, it'd be a tough choice whether to go or stay. I'm also looking for new employment here, if i get a new job, i don't think i'd want to leave.
Monday, August 07, 2006 - 11:09 pm, by: Dave Hart(Davyboy)
See what happens. You give them the vote, let them go to uni and learn stuff then you can't keep them bare foot and pregnant tied to the sink. It all turned to s***e when Doris Day stopped making films.
Tuesday, August 08, 2006 - 12:00 am, by: Iain Morrison(Iain)
Adam, if you love her you have to let her go pursue her dream. I can guarantee if you pressure her in any way not to go, and she doesnt go, then she will resent you forever. Even if she doesn't ask you to go with her.....bloody well follow her over there. What better way to show her how much she means to you than pursuing her half way round the world.
Tuesday, August 08, 2006 - 06:53 am, by: Kate Green(Mischief)
from a female perspective....yes her decision ultimately, but what a dream job for her indeed! Just like the saying, if you love something set it free and all that, but seriously, she should go AND you should go with her...it is hard to maintain long distance relationships...don't live wondering what could have been..it is called fate...YOU CAN DO IT..even if you only go for an extended holiday...you just never know what will be in store...that's what I would do if in the same position, go where your passion takes you, or you will regret it for the rest of your life.
Tuesday, August 08, 2006 - 07:36 am, by: Lew Radbourn(Marlew)
well said Kate. it is always a pain in the arse looking back thinking *WHAT IF*and *I SHOULD HAVE* this could only come around once in her life time so..... and there could be some sort of resentment later on in your relationship and 99% of the time it will come back in arguments as how I could have done this but i didn't because of our relationship.
Tuesday, August 08, 2006 - 08:58 am, by: Antony Borlase(Borlase)
She being offered this job is like a Soarer freak being offered the 1 year evaluation use of the new Lexus sports coupe, and being told you are not allowed to have anyone else in it.
How many here would turn down that offer?
My cents worth is you should tell her to go, say "I'll start to look for a place for us on the net" and hand in my notice at work. If you are talking LA in the good old'e US of A then a half decent graphics designer can get loads of work.
It would be a bit of a step down to driving Soarer's without a EMV, Air-bags etc but atleast there is Rod Millian and his performance shop for Lexus's.
It is 3 years...that is like what of your life? 10% of your life so far?! Do it, don't letdoubt hope the choice to support her in a 'once in a life time' opportunity.
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Adam Peterson wrote on Monday, August 07, 2006 - 10:40 pm:
LOL Callum, good insight, but personally that doesnt bother me. I can live with you checking her out
Tuesday, August 08, 2006 - 10:08 am, by: Miles Baker(Milesb)
Personally I would always choose the relationship first if I thought it was going to last for life. What's 3 years at some job compared to a partner for life? All jobs suck after the first week anyway.
If you're cool with her saying "I'm going with or without you", then go with her. Like if you would do that too, then you're kinda the same type of people. But if you were the one with the job offer, but would refuse it if she wouldn't go with you, and she's the opposite, that's kinda bad.
If she goes without you, kiss her goodbye. Dude she's dancing for RnB artists. You know what I'm saying.
Tuesday, August 08, 2006 - 10:45 am, by: Adam Peterson(President)
The internet isnt the place to be putting pictures of ones girlfriend. Sorry. Besides i didnt make this thread to show her off. Hope you understand. But thanks heaps for the 'councilling' comments. Appreciated
Tuesday, August 08, 2006 - 12:20 pm, by: Luke Nieuwhof(Luke_nieuwhof)
Adam Peterson wrote on Tuesday, August 08, 2006 - 10:45 am:
The internet isnt the place to be putting pictures of ones girlfriend
WTF? Who told you this!? The word picsorban was invented for good reason. Maybe you could just slip a new photo of yourself into the ppl pics thread and just happen to have your girlfriend alongside.
Tuesday, August 08, 2006 - 01:02 pm, by: Shane Ilich(Ferret)
Adam Peterson wrote on Monday, August 07, 2006 - 10:40 pm:
Isnt there a scene from the Matrix film about this decision dilemma? lol
"You know, I know what you're thinking, because right now I'm thinking the same thing. Actually, I've been thinking it ever since I got here.... Why, oh why, didn't I take the blue pill."
"If only" are the two most evil words I can think of mate, cos they always preface the expression of regret, and regrets are never worth having in my opinion. Making mistakes is one thing, they offer a learning experience....but regrets are a slightly different thing again.
Tuesday, August 08, 2006 - 01:30 pm, by: Adam Peterson(President)
very true. I was more referring to the dilemma of when Keaunu was speaking to the architect- 2nd Matrix film. One door saves his missus(that hot brownette), the other saves something else.
If it were me id go. But I would be a really crap support dancer lol
Tuesday, August 08, 2006 - 04:48 pm, by: Gary Redman(Gary)
Adam Obviously she has been training to be a dancer for many years and this is her dream come true. The 2 of you have to decide how strong your relationship is, and if she wants you following her to a new career and a new life. Don't think for a minute that life will just continue on the same in the US. She will have new priorities and new aquaintances that probably won't include you. Can you deal with this?
Tuesday, August 08, 2006 - 07:58 pm, by: Don Bagnall(Baggs)
Adam Peterson wrote on Tuesday, August 08, 2006 - 06:34 pm:
p.p.s I still believe this sort of emo •••• has no place on a car forum !
Adam.............This Forum IS a car forum, but cars are driven by PEOPLE, like you n' me, and people have emotions.........cars don't.
Kudos to YOU for feeling sufficiently comfortable in the company of strangers to bare your soul (so to speak). I see it as a mark of respect for your fellow Soarer-ites, and I can assure you that you have MY respect for so doing.
Without communication at ALL levels........we are nothing.
Tuesday, August 08, 2006 - 08:19 pm, by: Shannon Linnan(Qik_barge)
Lol, man, you've had 30 years or something to scour these shores for women.... So the way I see it you have 2 decisions to make.
whether you want to go, and 2 whether or not you want to break up. So, lets say you want to go, but you also want to break up... You get there first, theeeeen break up... lol, you got a whole other country bursting with babes who'll dig your accent abd wanna help put a smile on your face... Best of both worlds i reckon.
Seriously though, i'd go, or plan to, but leave it say 3-6 months before following her over. Would give you time to reflect and think about what life would be like without her. Would be clearer in time imo.